Facebook Pastor Had Marital Affair with Male Assistant

by Dr. Boyce Watkins, Syracuse University  - Scholarship in Action 

Apparently, the words "thou shall not use Facebook" don't quite trump the words "thou shall not have a three-way sexual relationship with your wife and a male assistant." The Rev. Cedric Miller became a national name last week after demanding that his entire New Jersey congregation delete their Facebook pages. The move was thought to be an incredibly bold statement about the impact that Facebook has on relationships, where old boyfriends/girlfriends never quite go away.
To the surprise of many, it turns out that Rev. Miller may have his own reasons for wanting Facebook out of his life. There are reports that the pastor had a three-way sexual relationship with his wife and a male assistant at the church. Rev. Miller, who heads the Living Word Christian Fellowship Church in Neptune Township, New Jersey, confirmed the information, which had been printed in a local newspaper.
The 48-year old pastor also demanded that all 50 of his married church officials delete their Facebook pages or quit their leadership posts. He told married members of his church to share their login information with their spouses. He said that he plans to leave Facebook this week himself.

 

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Who Is Necole Bitchie? Let Her Tell You

Necole Bitchie is a much loved urban media maven who came onto the blogging scene in 2007, and has remained a major player in the field ever since. Her eponymous blog,NecoleBitchie.com is one of the most popular Web destinations for discussing celebrity dish, offering a fresh voice and unique perspective on African American stars. How did Necole Bitchie make such a profound impact in such a short time in a crowded field? She shares the amazing business insights -- and a few celebrity finance secrets -- that have contributed to her stellar success. Here's what Necole told BV on Money:

What is your name and what do you do?
My name is Necole Bitchie and I am the voice behind the celebrity entertainment blogsite NecoleBitchie.com.

What are some of the misperceptions people have about celebrities and their money?

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Madam Prezident: For Colored Girls – Leave, but Don’t Take Me With You

 

I met someone whom I dearly adored

Enough to even DIE for

One day I was in class and I was packed in his bags

I thought, Leave, but don’t take me with you

His bags and I was at the door

They were reconnecting

And his heart was departing

Leaving.

He had left once before

But his voyage was short

And of course, because of his actions I straightened up my act

As if I was out of order

I strived to be perfect for him

But my perfection could not be accounted for because I was worthless to him

But, I didn’t care

I was an empty glass

In the hands

Of an alcoholic

And

Anything he poured inside me my spirit obliged

His bags and I was at the door

I reminded him of his promises

“You said you loved me”

“Don’t deceive me, don’t leave me”.

I laid in his lies

Gave him my heart for free

I was worst than a prostitute

“At least she got paid for it”

She created revenue with her assets

Although it wasn’t much

She was bringing in much more than me

My moral less nights of feel good

Didn’t feel good the morning after

I’d given him everything I had inside me

Around me, under me, above me, beside me, and behind me 

I’d given him much more than I had received

How could he move on?

How was I supposed to stand, without this man?

What about OUR plans?

His bags and I was at the door

My lungs in one bag

My brain in one bag

My kidneys in one bag

My ovaries in one bag

My eyes in one bag

My legs in one bag

And my heart in the garbage

I was ripped apart

And broken into pieces inside his bags

Ripped into pieces

He was leaving and taking me with him

But I was at the door whole heartedly, in his bags

He had been gone

Way long

Before he decided to pack

How can I live with that?

He was stronger than any STD

Damaging my insides so ghastly

That it cost me

Never will I conceive a child

With a smile

Because of the burdens he positioned inside me

He was leaving and I was going along with him

Until GOD came along

And let his Presence be known

I was confused about where I came from

Until “my father” showed me ‘WHOM’ I came from

My life was shattered

My mind was battered

But GOD recued me

And from BONDAGE I became free

The company of misery

No longer accompanied me

The MAN that Created Adam

Also created me

I was once at the door packed in bags

Until GOD illustrated to me “All that I had”

And him who once had my heart

Wasn’t even the best part

I was once at the door packed in bags

Screaming “leave, but please don’t take me with you”

I was glad at the day

That I could say

“Leave but you CAN’T take me with you”

I too, have found someone else

And his name is

GOD!!!!

For Colored Girls is Not For Black Men….At All

by Dr. Boyce Watkins, Syracuse University – Scholarship in Action 

I went to see "For Colored Girls," the exciting new film made by the great Tyler Perry.  I love Tyler's work, most of the time, and I've defended him on multiple occasions when he's come under attack for the nature of his films.  Spike Lee is one particular Tyler Perry hater that I've taken issue with, primarily because I think that Tyler does more good than harm in the industry.

But as much as we love Tyler Perry, all voices must be portrayed when responding to his style of film making.  My own voice became amplified after seeing "For Colored Girls," primarily because the film made me damn near embarrassed to be a black male.  Let's go down the list shall we?  The black men in the film consisted of a rapist, a thief, an abuser who murdered his own kids, a pimp, and a brother on the down low.  Now, Hill Harper had the distinct honor of being the knight in shining armor, but he was the only ray of goodness in the terrible rainbow that represents the experience of the black woman in America.

I wonder what I would think if I were a non-black person watching this film to get a sense of what happens in the African American community.  Well, first I'd conclude that most black women are well-balanced, fair and emotionally giving to men who simply don't deserve it.  I would then think that a small percentage of black men have the capacity to do good things, but that most of them will steal from you, deceive you, rape you, cheat on you and do all they can to provide irreversible and unthinkable pain to those who love them the most.  I can just hear one of the white women in the theater saying,  "Those poor black women.  Why in the world do they remain loyal to those horrible men?"

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