What do we do about gays in the church? Are there other pastors who spend their time engaging in questionable sexual activity? Dr. Boyce discusses these issues on MSNBC.
Please click here to watch.
Friday, September 24, 2010
Monday, September 20, 2010
Author Jamilah B. Creekmur – Part 2
by Dr. Boyce Watkins, Syracuse University – Scholarship in Action
This is the second part of my interview with author Jamilah B. Creekmur. I enjoyed speaking with Jamilah and I found her book, "Raised by the Mistress," to be a compelling layout of what it might be like to be the child of "the other woman." I recommend taking a look at Jamilah's book and watching the interview. I think you'll enjoy what you see.
Friday, September 10, 2010
Would You Settle for Half a Man?
by Dr. Boyce Watkins, Syracuse University – Scholarship in Action
I have a theory that I've wondered would hold up to empirical scrutiny. My theory is that there are quite a few women who might be willing to settle for part of a good man rather than having 100% of a mediocre man. For example, men like Tiger Woods might have more girlfriends than most of us can count, and some would wonder if any of those women expect him to be committed to just one person. Not to say that I condone one lifestyle over another, but we all know how things go down in the real world.
Thursday, September 9, 2010
MaLinda Sapp, Marvin Sapp’s Wife, Dies of Colon Cancer
by Dr. Boyce Watkins, Syracuse University
Prominent Gospel Music artist Marvin Sapp recently lost his wife to colon cancer. Marvin's wife, MaLinda, had been married to him for 15 years and they have three children together. MaLinda was an Administrative Pastor at the church they ran together, the Lighthouse Full Life Center, in Grand Rapids, MI.
Before she died, MaLinda was a college professor and licensed professional counselor. The following statement was issued by 92.1 Praise Houston about the death of MaLinda Sapp:
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
Lawrence Fishburne’s daughter explains her reason for going into PORN
"I've watched how successful Kim Kardashian became and I think a lot of it was due to the release of her sex tape by Vivid," Fishburne said in the press release." I'm hoping the same magic will work for me. I'm impatient about getting well-known and having more opportunities and this seemed like a great way to get started on it."
Below Madam Prezident writes a letter to Montana
Dear Montana,
I am sorry that America has failed you. As a young African American woman I believe I owe you an apology on America’s behalf. I know you are chasing a dream of stardom; however I don’t think your body should be the sacrifice. Paparazzi that once captured the moments of father and daughter walking side by side with a caption of innocence is ruined by the Tabloids and its national conversation of your imprudent career choice. I’m sorry America has failed you.
I’m sorry your father accomplishments don’t impress you as they do the entire world. I’m sorry Brian Pumper's steel muscles will leave your future children questioning mommy’s integrity. If you are an aspiring actress, I can assure you a former sex slave will never receive an OSCAR for her role in ignominy pornography. I’m sorry America has failed you.
I’m sorry your ancestors struggle doesn’t inspire you the same as Vivid. I am sorry that Whoopi Goldberg, Halle Berry, Kerry Washington, Mo’Nique, Angela Bassett, Raven Symone, Thandi Newton, Gabriel Union, Queen Latifah, Sanaa Lathan, Pam Grier, Nia Long, Anika Noni-Rose, Cicely Tyson, Viola Davis, Tamara Dobson, Yaya DaCosta, Susan Dilian, Phylicia Rashad, Debbie Allen, Maya Angelou, Eartha Kitt, and many many more African American Super Stars couldn’t influence you the same as Kim Kardashian.
America commercializes and encourages sex and classifies it as sexy, but the impractical acts of sex have millions of black women dying with AIDS leaving motherless children behind. I’m sorry that America has failed you, and as beautiful as you are; I’m sorry you don’t recognize your worth.
Meaningful Blessings,
Madam Prezident
Sunday, July 25, 2010
Life at 80
Many peop;e think the 80 years of age means sitting on the sidelines....OH NO!! We 80 yr youngers are doing it by traveling and having the time of our lices. Recently I had the time of my life in San Andreas Columbia Away from the rain and other inclemet weather traumas. An all inclusive holiday with all the pina coladas I could drink and the best seafood on the continent. Come fly with me and live it up PS Sorry about the date on the pic. I havent learned how to set the right date and time yet....
Saturday, July 10, 2010
Steve Urkel, I mean Jaleel White Accused of Beating His Girlfriend?
From YourBlackWorld.com
Jaleel White, better known as Steve Urkel from the television show, "Family Matters," was accused of beating his girlfriend, Bridget Hardy, who is also the mother of his 10-month old child. She reported the abuse to the LAPD, stating that White punched her in her breast implants while they were on the highway driving in their car.
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Results of AOL Black Voices Poll about Black Women and Dating
This poll was taken in response to the article Does the black church keep women single and lonely? - The majority of black women believe that they should open their dating horizons in general and that in spite of what Deborah Cooper has to say, the church can be a good place to find a Godly man. What do you think?
Black women need to open their dating horizons in general
50%
266
No -- It's a woman's right to seek a Godly man
22%
118
Yes -- It's a bad place to meet men
10%
51
No Comment / Not Sure
9%
49
Either way, I find her views judgemental
9%
47
Monday, June 14, 2010
Should Black Women Keep a List for Dating Choices?
A black woman put a list of her dating requirements on my facebook page as part of a broader conversation some were having about black relationships and why they don't work. I wonder what others think about this list and whether or not it's healthy to have a list like this in your quest for true love. Here is the list:
I don't date men in jail
I don't date men with children
I don't date men who don't have a job
I don't date men who are not career oriented
I don't date men who have a criminal history (it's called a background check and I highly recommend it)
I don't date men who carry guns
I don't date men who abuse drugs
I don't date men who are verbally or physically abusive to anything OR anyone
I don't date men who borrow money
I don't date men who reject education
I don't date men who can't cook and clean
I don't date men who can't cry
I don't date men who disrespect their mothers
I don't date men who worship their mothers
I don't date men who are still in love with his ex
I don't date men who are married
I don't date men who are separated
I don't date men who are legally separated
I don't date men in open relationships
I don't date men who have girlfriends
I don't date men who have a girlfriend
I don't date men who brag about taking care of their kids
I don't date men who don't take care of their kids
I don't date men who don't know how to get rid of an ex-girlfriend
I don't date men who are disrespectful to their ex-wives
I don't date men who refuse to take an AIDS test
Sunday, June 13, 2010
Diddy's Son Gets a $350,000 Car - Is that too much?
Some think it's too much that Diddy's son got a $350,000 car for his 16th birthday - do you agree?
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Brian McKnight Gets the Baby Daddy Blues
by Dr. Boyce Watkins
It appears that the singer Brian McKnight is now a not-so-proud father. Well, the child isn't exactly a baby either. According to TMZ, the child is a 14-year old that Brian hasn't exactly claimed to be his own. Well, whether McKnight chooses to address the child as his own or not, a Florida judge has ruled that Brian must now take financial responsibility for the child. The amount owed? $341,640, which comes out to just over $2,000 per month for every month since the child was born.
The mother of the child, Miriam Lee, took Brian McKnight to court to establish paternity last year. Why she waited so long to do so is not clear. From this point on, the singer is responsible for making child support payments in the amount of $11,388 per month. The ruling was a default judgment, since McKnight was not in court and didn't respond to the woman's claim of paternity.
Friday, June 11, 2010
Hip Hop Needs to grow up - Respect Black Women Please
The age of the Hoochie Mama is over
by Dr. Boyce Watkins | TheLoop21 in Culture & Society
It's time for hip hop, and its audience, to grow up.
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Dr. Boyce Watkins: Talib Kweli Weighs in on Slim Thug's Remarks about Black Women
by Dr. Boyce Watkins, Syracuse University
A note to Slim Thug: You probably just need to be quiet for a while. It's not to say thatyour comments about black women were outside your rights to freedom of speech, but if you keep dissing the audience most likely to go out and buy your records, you are probably going to end up in the same poorhouse as MC Hammer. Don't get me wrong, black men love your music (at least I do), but the bottom line is that brothers don't buy albums, books, or anything else put up for sale. But when black women turn on you, it's a wrap son. Settle down and go back to the studio; it's good for your financial health.
I wrote yesterday about the comments made by Slim Thug regarding how he perceives white women to be a better dating choice than black women, as well asColumbia Professor Marc Lamont Hill'sresponse to Slim Thug's words. It seems that the debate has taken a life of it's own, now that rapper Talib Kweli has joined the conversation. In a recent essay he wrote for Vibe Magazine, Talib Kweli was ever the diplomatic artist, as he showed respect for Slim Thug, but also expressed his own concerns for his colleague's remarks about black women:
To read more about the debate regarding Slim Thug’s comments about black women, click here.
Monday, June 7, 2010
Monday, May 31, 2010
"Friend Of Failure"
Madam prezident interviews Dre Smith Double major college student, Majoring in Pyshcology and Fashion! Fashion is not just fashion, its a lifestyle!
DAMN ALICIA KEYS
Alicia Keys is pregnant by a STILL Married Man, his divorce Is not finalized!! She's gonna lose him the same way she got him!!!
TE AMO
Rihanna went hard on her new Video, TE AMO. Can beyonce make the same video and not catch hell?
Thursday, May 27, 2010
Monday, May 24, 2010
LeBron James' Mother and Her Son's Teammate: Overkill?
Is it right for LeBron James to be so distracted by the rumor that his mother is sleeping with his teammate?
Friday, May 21, 2010
"The Game Iz Back"
Madam Prezident, witnessed Tia Moury say "THE GAME IS OFFICIALLY RETURNING" and Everyone including writers and producers are RETURNING AZ WELL. See for yourself
Monday, April 26, 2010
Lola Adesioye: Are Black Women Victims of a Bad Dating Situation?
by Lola Adesioye, Huffington Post
Over the past few months, black women and their relationships - or should I say, lack thereof - have been getting a lot of attention. The Washington Posthas done a couple of features on it. Then ABC'sNightline did a show asking why there are so many single black women.
All of a sudden the mainstream media is taking a keen interest in our love lives. We are being told that there is a 'crisis' amongst black women, particularly educated professional women, who are apparently unable to find a 'decent' black man.
Last night, ABC continued once again, with the airing of "Why Can't a Successful Black Woman Find a Man?," a taped discussion featuring Hill Harper, Steve Harvey, The View's Sherri Shepherd and others.
There's no doubt that it's a topic that sparks heated debates and discussions amongst black women and men. It has for years. But is it really that bad? Or is the media - now that it has found a hot topic - exploiting this issue for all that it's worth? I'm an educated black woman and I personally have no problem with meeting eligible, educated, great black men. Whether or not I choose to date them is another thing, but they are out there.
I am somewhat perturbed by the slew of stories on this topic. They are negative, unhelpful and only serve to perpetuate negative ideas about black men and women which often become self-fullfiling. They basically say 'oh, poor black women. They try so hard yet can't find a decent man ... Boo hoo, black women are victims. Ooh, it's all the fault of those pathetic black men. You know, they have no education or are locked up in jail.' Sorry, but I do not subscribe to that view.
Saturday, April 24, 2010
Syracuse Professor Boyce Watkins speaks on ABC News about Love and Money
by Dr. Boyce Watkins, Finance Professor - Syracuse University
As a Finance Professor, I find it incredibly ironic that many people get married without talking about money. They talk about every kind of compatibility from emotional, to spiritual, sexual, and professional, but they seldom take the time necessary to ensure that they can tolerate the idea of sharing their financial life with a person who may not be on the same page. This problem is compounded in black relationships, where many women describe economic hurdles as one of the reasons that black women have trouble finding the right mate.
Monday, April 19, 2010
Sunday, April 18, 2010
Dr. Boyce Watkins on ABC News: Love, Money and Divorce
Watch Dr Boyce Watkins, Finance Professor at Syracuse University on ABC News discussing money and divorce - how to do it the right way.
Friday, April 9, 2010
Saturday, February 27, 2010
Your Black World: Anita Baker Almost Goes to Jail
Singing great Anita Baker barely missed going to jail Friday in a dispute with her ex-husband over music royalties. The 52-year old Baker found herself in a heated battle with Walter Bridgforth, her ex-husband, over the details of their divorce settlement.
"I'm so happy. ... I have never been in such a position before," Baker said in the hallway outside court. "And we don't intend to ever be in such a position ever again. I just wanna go home,and I'm happy to go home. ... As horrific as it could have been, it was lovely to feel supported, though, on the other end."
Baker was faced with a deadline Wednesday to sign documents that empower court-appointed music contract expert Howard Hertz to obtain information from record labels regarding how much Baker owed her ex-husband. The deadline passed and Baker still had not signed. This led to the Wayne County Chief Family Court Judge Lita Masini Popke ordering Baker to either show up in court on Friday or go to jail.
News: Anita Baker Barely Misses Going to Jail
Singing great Anita Baker barely missed going to jail Friday in a dispute with her ex-husband over music royalties. The 52-year old Baker found herself in a heated battle with Walter Bridgforth, her ex-husband, over the details of their divorce settlement.
"I'm so happy. ... I have never been in such a position before," Baker said in the hallway outside court. "And we don't intend to ever be in such a position ever again. I just wanna go home,and I'm happy to go home. ... As horrific as it could have been, it was lovely to feel supported, though, on the other end."
Baker was faced with a deadline Wednesday to sign documents that empower court-appointed music contract expert Howard Hertz to obtain information from record labels regarding how much Baker owed her ex-husband. The deadline passed and Baker still had not signed. This led to the Wayne County Chief Family Court Judge Lita Masini Popke ordering Baker to either show up in court on Friday or go to jail.
Friday, January 29, 2010
Friday, January 8, 2010
Why Black Women Are Not Getting Married
Dr. Boyce Watkins and S. Tia Brown discuss some of the reasons that Black women are deciding not to get married.
Why Black Women Are Not Getting Married
Dr. Boyce Watkins and S. Tia Brown discuss some of the reasons that Black women are deciding not to get married.
Monday, December 14, 2009
News: Charlie Murphy’s Wife Loses Her Battle with Cancer
From AOL Black Voices
This statement was released by the publicist for Charlie Murphy, brother of Eddie Murphy:
“Tisha Taylor Murphy, wife of comedian and actor Charlie Murphy, passed away peacefully on Sunday, with family at her side after facing the challenges of cancer for the past two years. The Murphy Family appreciates all the support they have received from friends and fans and requests privacy during this very difficult time.”
Tuesday, December 8, 2009
Nicole Spence: He’s Afraid of a Big Ol Butt?
Hey People!
Sorry I've been gone finals have been kicking my ass! But, Wednesday is the last day of school so I'll be all yours again!
Any who of course I got an interesting story, a tale of some bullshit!
You know when I was a little girl my Uncle Mark always used to tease me about my big butt! He would always let me know, that when I grew up my boyfriend would love me for it though! Considering I was a little girl, and insecure about this big ol' Rice n Peas butt, I didn't know what he was talking about. I thought I was fat!
Fast forward I grew up and my butt grew in size as well, and my Uncle Marky never lied! The Boys loved me for it. Well at least the ones that could handle the butt did! Lol.
With that said one of my bootylicous girlfriends went out with this rapper, with only one record under his belt the other night and check what he had to say!
Thursday, December 3, 2009
Monday, November 30, 2009
Your Black Love: Towanna Freeman on Domestic Violence
One in every four women will experience domestic abuse in her lifetime, women 20 to 24 are at the greatest risk, and most cases of domestic abuse are never reported to the police. Victims of domestic abuse often feel as though no one will believe them, or they think they have nowhere to go for help. Domestic abuse is a pattern of behaviors used to control and dominate someone. Domestic abuse comes in many forms; the most common includes criminal behavior such as physical assault, sexual abuse, and stalking, as well as noncriminal behavior including emotional and psychological abuse. An abuser can be a spouse, former spouse, or any other person who is a present or former household member.
The following are a few red flags that should be taken seriously: jealousy, isolation, threats of violence, verbal abuse, controlling behavior, does not respect privacy, and disrespects others. If someone you know demonstrates one or more of these characteristics on a consistent basis, he or she has the potential of being an abuser. Often these red flags are not obvious at the start of any relationship, but if you see these characteristics get out of the relationship and seek help immediately. Here are some steps you can take to help a friend experiencing domestic abuse:
1. Tell your friend, “I see what is going on.”
2. Tell your friend, “Abuse is not their fault and it is not normal.”
3. Tell your friend, “You deserve a healthy non-violent relationship.”
4. Tell your friend, “The number to the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233.”
5. Ask your friend, “How can I help support you?”
Everyone has the power to prevent domestic abuse not just those who are directly affected. The proactive actions of a bystander in the prevention of domestic abuse send a powerful message to both the victim and the abuser.
To report domestic abuse or learn about prevention and services call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. Help is available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.
Sunday, November 29, 2009
Why Are Black People Not Getting Married?
Are the men or the women to blame for the reason that black people are not getting married?
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Can someone legally make the cosby show into a porno?
Click here to watch the video trailer – hilarious!
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Black Love, Black Sex and HIV
As soon as he gets through, he hears the disclaimer that The Biosphere is not responsible for any actions or consequences that may result from meeting someone online. An hour later, the young man finds himself in the company of a complete stranger -- names don't matter since they're probably all made up. Besides, the odds are against the two of them making a love connection. Ten minutes in, they're engaged in some extremely risky behavior.
The young man is only 17, a senior in high school, from a good home, and curious about exploring his sexuality.
Friday, November 6, 2009
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Mother, Wife and Businesswomen: How do you Balance?
In this episode of Financial Lovemaking, Dr. Boyce and Tia talk with Towanna Freeman, an author, speaker, wife and mother on how to balance love, life, and success.
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Black Barbies Come Out – What do you think?
Grace, Kara and Trichelle were created to fill a void for young black girls who for so long have been playing with dolls that don't look like them.
Stacy McBride-Irby, creator of the new Barbie, poses with the dolls.
The new black Barbies released by Mattel have fuller lips, curlier hair and other features that the company says more accurately represent African-American women.
Some have cheered the new dolls. Others jeered them, saying they're not black enough.
"I love the black Barbie. It's about time," Jua Simpson said on CNN's iReport, a user-generated news community. "But the hair is still a step backwards, since most of our hair is not straight and light brown."
Others disagree with critics who say the dolls should have had more natural black hairstyles, such as afros or braids.
"Many people have criticized the dolls for either having hair that's too long or too straight, but I have long, straight hair that I straightened. But it's my hair and a part of me," said Tanisa Zoe Samuel, an African-American iReporter from the Turks and Caicos, in the Caribbean. "Black women come in all shades, shapes and varieties that there is just no way to capture everyone with three dolls." iReport.com: Samuel shares her thoughts on the new Barbie
The dolls were created by Stacy McBride-Irby, an African-American who watched her daughter play with dolls and wanted to create a doll that looked more like her.
How do you Protect Your Children? What’s Over the top?
by Dr. Boyce Watkins, Syracuse University, AOL Black Voices
I have daughters and I love them all. They are all at "that age," between 16 and 20, where they tend to love the boys that you want to beat down the most. Every time I hear them express their undying love for Lil Wayne, I can only think about him having 3 women pregnant at the same time. When I see a Chris Brown poster in their room, I remind them that Chris was accused of having boxing practice on Rihanna's face.
But as a father, you can't protect your daughters from themselves. Some things they have to learn on their own. And if sleeping with a pants-saggin, "purple stuff dranking," gold grill wearing, 10,000 tattoo having buffoon is the way they need to learn their lessons, you just kinda have to deal with it.I empathize with Wade Edwards, the man accused of shooting a boy for sleeping with his step daughter. Wade shot the boy four times, aiming for the "relevant zone" with each bullet. But while I can understand Wade's anger, I do not, for one second, condone his actions.
If the link above doesn’t work, click here.
Financial Lovemaking: Shooting Your Daughter's boyfriend
We all want to protect our kids, but does it make sense that Wade Edwards shot his daughter's boyfriend?
Friday, October 2, 2009
Managing Multiple Baby's Mamas: What Does that mean?
How do you deal with the challenge of having multiple children in multiple households?
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